Something caught my attention lately, as I was reading Nancy Demoss Wolgemuth’s book Adorned about Titus 2.
She makes the point that God is a homemaker.
It blew my mind a little bit. Why hadn’t I ever realized this before?!
Jesus Himself promised: “In my Father’s house are many rooms. If it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for you?” John 14:2
Throughout Scripture the Lord makes homes and calls Himself our home.
“Father of the fatherless and protector of widows
is God in his holy habitation.
God settles the solitary in a home;
he leads out the prisoners to prosperity,
but the rebellious dwell in a parched land.” Psalm 68:5-6
“Lord, you have been our dwelling place in all generations.” Psalm 90:1
In seeing all this, my “theology” of homemaking changed dramatically.
God calls us to homemaking because it’s no small matter – it’s part of who He is. It is about building places where His Kingdom can grow and flourish.
Homemaking for Dummies?
Growing up, being a “housewife” or “homemaker” was a joke to me, a 1950’s ideal I didn’t think fit in our modern culture.
In my endless interests and love for academia I had many dreams – varying from becoming a surgeon to a travel journalist – and raising a family would be squeezed in there somewhere.
Then I became a Christian, and my priorities started shifting. A few years later I married… and reality hit. My grade in domestic tasks was close to flunking.
I remember timidly asking my husband how to clean the bathroom, or the way he washed dishes. Dinners were a laughable attempt at Pinterest recipes. I went from acing exams at a top-tier university to wondering how to cook a piece of chicken and do a load of delicates.
Talk about humbling.
By that point I knew managing the home was my responsibility as a wife, because the Bible said so (Titus 2:5). I didn’t question it, but I was clueless and discouraged.
If you’re feeling this way, there’s hope!
Gradually, with advice from sweet friends (and Google) my understanding of cleaning and nurturing our abode grew.
And what was the major game-changer?
I started embracing the amazing reason why God wants women to keep the home: “to give a taste of heaven.” (DeMoss)
A Temporary Place with Eternal Impact
For the most part, we as women naturally love making things beautiful. Even if we can’t do it ourselves, we can create a vision for it or appreciate it when it’s there.
Because God is beautiful, and is the Author of beauty. We were designed to worship Him and reflect Him as creatures made in His image.
Homemaking is one way we do this. If our heart is renewed in Christ, we can direct our creative and organizational skills to magnify His beauty to our families and the world.
While we can enjoy decorating rooms for the holidays, or whipping up a gourmet meal, this call God gives us doesn’t need to be complicated.
Homemaking isn’t being the next DIY star or splurging to make a HGTV status design, but creating an environment that allows for beauty to arise in hearts.
An environment of peace, of order, just like our God is. A place of meaning, of gathering, where life and fellowship thrive.
We can renew the example of the early church.
“And day by day, attending the temple together and breaking bread in their homes, they received their food with glad and generous hearts…” Acts 2:46
As Nancy Wolgemuth puts it: “[A] home is not an idol or an end to itself. It is a tool, a means of putting the gospel and the grace of God on display.”
Remember, homemaking is not the number one priority, but it is a priority that helps us meet all those above it.
By loving our homes we provide a central place to help our husbands, disciple our children, and to witness to our friends.
This can only happen when we see this calling as a joy.
Our Home Reflects Our Heart
“The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down.” Proverbs 14:1
Who wants to destroy their home? Not me, and I’m guessing not you! Humor aside, this is striking, because it shows homemaking is connected to our character.
When done right, homemaking is one way love is made tangible.
Our attitude can make or break our home. Our motivation is as important as our maintenance.
What we do within the walls of our home shows what’s within the walls of our heart.
Rather than give into laziness or stress for the image of perfection, the Lord wants us to shine joy, faithfulness, and kindness through heartfelt care.
At home we have privacy and independence, and this can tempt us into letting it fall into neglect. We can exert our energies elsewhere, and forget our home impacts those closest to us. However, God desires our devotion to Him there, because that’s where life is most intimately shared.
The opposite can happen too. In our ambitious attempts to meal plan or create cleaning schedules, let’s not become so caught up in the results that we forget to love in the process.
We can find balance in our housekeeping tasks if we remember Who we do it for.
We can rest in Jesus even if not every room is squeaky clean, because we have an understanding that outward perfection is not what matters, but inward worship.
There’s a reason God placed the Proverbs 31 woman in the Bible – not to burden us with a impossible to-do list but to inspire us to fill our days with good works that glorify Him.
“She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.” Proverbs 31:27
The Lord has entrusted all of us with the care of eternal souls, and we can do our part by fostering a setting where His glory shines for them.