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The Quiet Sin That Can Steal Your Joy in God

It all started with a novel. I’m a bookworm – Christian historical romance admittedly being one of my favorite genres – and I was excited to dive into this new story set in the wild west.

The thing is (and maybe it’s the case for most of us), when I read fiction I am easily sucked into the world and zip through the book in a matter of days. My mind tends to drift, all too eager to escape into the plot and alternate reality.

I’m learning to exercise self-control with this, because it’s usually not the author or the content that’s bad – most of these novels are filled with Christian themes and biblical encouragement.

It’s my own heart, my desperately sick heart, that can twist a good, sweet storyline into a floodgate of earthly – instead of heavenly – thoughts.

“The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?” Jeremiah 17:9

This particular book, while beautiful and well-intentioned, hit the soft spots of my flesh. I’m a lover of nature, of frontier, rustic living, and Hallmark-style romances. So when it highlighted all those ideals, my joy in God suddenly faded into a whirlwind of disappointment.


Feelings of envy, of desiring this fictional world, opened the door to discontentment, which ultimately morphed into idolatry.

That’s a dangerous combination, friend.

The Problem Within

The quiet sin we so often nurture without knowing is covetousness, born out of our heart’s weakness toward what we see and feel. A desire that overpowers our desire for God, and painfully dishonors Him.

Merriam Webster’s definition for covetous is as follows: “1. marked by inordinate desire for wealth or possessions or for another’s possessions. 2. having a craving for possession.”

That was me.

There’s a reason covetousness is in the 10 commandments – it’s serious. It pulls our eyes and hearts away from One most deserving. It says He is not enough, when He is in every way.

When I saw my home and life didn’t match what I was reading, my heart for devotion began shutting down. For a few pitiful days I lost focus on the love of Christ, on His generous blessings, on the joy to be had in ministry to my family. I became short-tempered, irritable, and impatient with those around me.  

Worldly yearnings I had previously overcome by the Spirit for a few days suddenly came back. I forgot the beauty of my Creator, getting lost in what’s created. My eyes kept wandering from heaven down to the fleeting beauties of earth.

I had put my guard down, not fixing my gaze toward what’s of far more beauty – Jesus.

If we’re not actively resisting the devil (1 Peter 5:8-9), putting on the armor of God (Ephesians 6:10-18), and walking by the Spirit (Galatians 5:16), the snowball effect of sin can become an avalanche before we know it.

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A Common Temptation

Maybe it’s not a book for you – maybe it’s a TV show, a movie, or an ideal you’ve been clinging to since childhood. Some dream world or idyllic life that briefly brings pleasure to your soul, but in the end brings bitterness.

Why do these kind of dreams trouble us?

Covetousness and discontentment arise when we’re not rightfully satisfied in God, the Most High, the Eternal One, the Savior of our souls.

But how infinitely worthy He is of our adoration! NOTHING compares to Him. Compared to Him, everything else is NOTHING. We must believe that, and it hits us head on when we remember His compassion at the cross, His glorious, perfect love poured out for lowly sinners. 

As I share in my upcoming anxiety Bible study, what we fill our minds with – whether darkness or light, earthly or heavenly – can determine the battle in this area, and whether we see His victory (Matthew 6:22-23).

Remember this warning from the Word:

“Do not love the world nor the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh and the lust of the eyes and the boastful pride of life, is not from the Father, but is from the world. The world is passing away, and also its lusts; but the one who does the will of God lives forever.” 1 John 2:15-17

It’s imperative that we discern and recognize our temptations. If I know this kind of book – as innocent as it appears – leads me into love for the world and distracts me from Christ, I have to cut it off, plain and simple (Matthew 5:29-30).

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The Hope of Christ

To do away with coveting, we also have to consistently be in the Word and in fellowship with other believers at church, because both direct our thinking and our theology to Christ – giving us a renewed mind (Romans 12:2). Both point us upward.

“If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. For you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. When Christ who is your life appears, then you also will appear with him in glory.” Colossians 3:1-4

That, my sisters, is the hope that’s ahead – seeing Christ in His glory, and being with Him. That is the forever promise that awaits us, and far surpasses the pleasures of anything on this earth. Christ is our life.

I share all this vulnerably and openly, because the blessed truth is I have been set free from sin in my Lord Jesus.

Before Him, I would have continued to be lost in this unreal world, this fantasy, and let it drive my actions and relationship with God. Yet now, by the grace of my Savior and gift of the Holy Spirit, this sin does not have to linger or destroy.

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We fall into sin, but through proper confession and repentance, Jesus restores us by His mercy. He continues to cover us in the sight of the Father with His righteousness. As His people we may falter, but no one can snatch us out of His hand (John 10:28-30).

Shame can give way to obedience, and I can walk away wiser than before, sanctified in His sight.

Are you there, my friend? Have you turned to God in your discontentment? If you have trusted in Christ, you do not have to dwell in disappointment or unfulfilled longings. Humbly turn to Him and seek forgiveness.

In His infinite grace, Jesus offers abundant, full joy to those who love Him, as we treasure His salvation and glory more and more each day.

“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly. 11 I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep.” John 10:10-11

In His Love,


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14 Comment

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    Caroline Kido
    January 29, 2018 at 4:25 PM

    Yes, i had this experience just not long ago, it started just before the new year, 2017-2018. It seemed like everyone was gearing up for the new year with fresh new goals and purposes, it felt like everyone had a whirlwind of opportunities ahead of them… and myself, a housewife in a foreign land for 12 years, i felt like i was being stuck in the house, shut away from society. How i yearned to be part of society, working with others and actually making money, instead of having to ask my husband everytime i wanted something knowing he would likely tell me that the item i wanted wasn’t needed, so having the desire to be independent from my husband’s desires, while enjoying the friendship with coworkers, it was all a big lie. The ideal that is. i fell hard spiritually. I quickly became discontent, unhappy, i clammed up in front of everyone at each service trying to hide my unhappiness, my jealousy, my covetousness…it was horribly dark for me during those days, then i feebishly went to the Lord and said – i’m wrong, surely i’m wrong. He lifted me up and since then i feel very humbled, not easy, but feeling feeble and humble. Who am i, to do and say and decide what i should do? How ashamed i am of myself. But praise be to our Lord, who paid the price for such sins…chasings of the wind. Now i place my eyes on things i have and give thanks.

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      Dani Munoz
      January 30, 2018 at 9:33 PM

      Wow Caroline, thank you for sharing your testimony and praise God that He opened your eyes! As the Word says, He gives grace to the humble – and what a blessing that is! We don’t have to be enslaved to our empty desires, but can be free and filled by joy in Christ. Praying you and I continue to hold onto that precious truth, seeing His glory everyday.

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    Gretchen Fleming
    January 30, 2018 at 4:22 AM

    Well done Dani! I appreciate your honesty and the identification of something that may not be a bad thing but it became a stumbling block nonetheless. I think it helps tremendously learning from others. It opens our eyes to what we may be blind over. I had to give up historical romance novels when I was early in my marriage. I was reading about romance that my husband could not live up to. The more I read, the more I looked over at him and thought I was missing out somehow. I finally recognized the impossible standard I was measuring him by and determined to cease the destructive cycle.

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      Dani Munoz
      January 30, 2018 at 9:35 PM

      Thanks for reading and sharing, Gretchen! And YES – this is such a stumbling block for women. I’ve been seeing the folly of overdoing romance novels, for those exact reasons. It can become hurtful to our husbands and our walk with God, so we have to be careful.

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    January 30, 2018 at 4:22 PM

    What a real post! It’s posts like these that the Lord uses to set the writer and the reader free. Thank you for sharing!

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      Dani Munoz
      January 30, 2018 at 9:37 PM

      It is so neat how God uses writing to both minister to the writer and the reader, as you said. I hope this helps many women be set free from envy. Thank you for stopping by, Christina! 🙂

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    January 31, 2018 at 3:11 PM

    Great post Dani! It’s not easy to be so transparent and vulnerable with your readers, God is using you in an amazing way. I’m sure there are a great number of people this will resonate with. 😘

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      Dani Munoz
      February 1, 2018 at 9:37 AM

      Thanks for the words of grace, Jen! Your encouragement is a blessing! 🙂

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    February 1, 2018 at 9:22 AM

    Great post Dani! Thank you for being open and honest. I’m pretty positive that covetousness and discontentment are something we ALL deal with. This is a great reminder today!

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      Dani Munoz
      February 1, 2018 at 9:38 AM

      Oh yes, it is a major struggle for everyone! I hope this brings to light why we need to turn to Him when we fall into it. Thanks for visiting, Susan!

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    February 2, 2018 at 4:19 AM

    What advice would you give a girl child who does not feel like she does not belongs to her family and feels like a disgrace to her family and does not have the strength to pray anymore…

    And thank you very much.

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      Dani Munoz
      February 5, 2018 at 2:39 PM

      Tyra, there is so much I could say, but here’s one core truth to hold onto – if you place your faith in Jesus Christ, believing that He died for your sins and rose again, you’re fully forgiven and completely new. You are in God’s family, the most important one of all. You are His, and He will never fail you or forsake you. I don’t know your situation, but if there is any advice I could give it would be to trust and rest in God’s love in Jesus, and to offer love however you can to your family or those around you. If you feel like a disgrace, you have to turn to Jesus. The truth is ALL of us, me, you, every human, has failed in some way or another. But Jesus, through His sacrifice makes us righteous and enables us to live for God. He can restore you. Even if your family rejects you, He won’t. Keep praying, and you will see answers from Him in Scripture and by being with His people in church. Commit your way to Him, and He will use you for His glory and for your good. <3

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    February 2, 2018 at 10:15 AM

    I just want to say you have really inspired me as a teenager. Its really rare to find a someone who is really in the Lord and not in the earthly world. You have really touched my heart and I greatly appreciate it. Thank you so much.

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    February 5, 2018 at 7:49 PM

    Dani, this is such a delightful post pointing us back to the only one who can satisfy – Jesus! I loved that you included the dictionary definition of covetness. Sometimes I think it’s only if I wish I had things others had – justifying my desire for earthly things “if it’s not because others have it.” This is a convicting and powerful post!

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