Just a few posts ago I highlighted 15 Proverbs outside Chapter 31 that speak to the way of a woman. And yet, I felt the need to return to the beautiful final chapter, and look more closely at the Biblical woman we all dearly esteem.
When we consider the Proverbs 31 woman’s extensive, honorable track record, it’s easy to become lost in what she did as opposed to how she did it all.
The reason her life appears to be such a high standard, one that many of us secretly doubt we can reach, is because we are viewing her through the wrong lens.
We think the Biblical woman is defined by her productivity.
I know for myself that I often read the passage in awe of her ability—she’s sewing, preparing food, surveying fields, selling at the market, teaching her children, etc.—and with each task I feel the burden to do the same, and to do so perfectly.
Sister, if all we take away from Proverbs 31 is a comprehensive list of homemaking tasks to perfect, we’ve missed the most precious jewel to be found.
Today’s productivity-driven culture often has us thinking backward, even when studying this portion of Scripture. How so?
The Proverbs 31 woman is not godly because she is productive, but productive because she is godly.
Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Proverbs 31:31
Her trust in the Lord is the at the root of everything she does, inspiring her to serve with joy.
Her God-fearing attitude leads her actions, not the other way around.
On the other hand, when we make productivity the idol—doing it all without reflecting on Who we’re are doing it for, discouragement or weariness is inevitable.
In my own homemaking, I’ve realized how easy it is to slip into a to-do list mindset, where the duties of the day overrule all else. My responsibilities become burdens instead of joys, because I prioritize them over my relationship with God.
What is the point of becoming the best cook, laundry guru, or organization queen if we do so in a complaining spirit, or with an frustrated heart? Such striving only leads to bitterness and emptiness.
Instead of clinging to the goal of perfection, we need to cling to the grace of Christ, letting the beautiful joy of His salvation lead us each day—even if all the dishes aren’t clean.Good homemaking is born out of a godly attitude. Click To Tweet
We need to abide in Jesus, making our motivation pleasing Him and not ourselves.
We can only be excellent like the Proverbs 31 woman when we surrender to God each day, seeking to glorify Him above everything else.
Below are snapshots from Proverbs 31 that showcase her beautiful heart. Keep in mind that all these admirable qualities come from faith, not merit:
She is motivated, cheerfully obeying God’s will.
She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. Proverbs 31:13
She looks well to the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness. Proverbs 31:27
She is thoughtful, dedicated to those God has given her.
She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household, and portions for her maidens. Proverbs 31:15
She is resilient, resting in the power of her God.
She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong. Proverbs 31:20
She is generous, sharing God’s provision and compassion.
She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy. Proverbs 31:20
She is fearless, trusting in God’s sovereignty and goodness.
Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. Proverbs 31:25
She is considerate, showing godly patience and discernment with others.
She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. Proverbs 31:26