Christian Living

5 of God’s Desires for Women

August 7, 2017

When thinking on Scriptures about womanhood, one particular line has always stood out in my mind – when God describes how a woman can be precious in His sight.

“Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear—but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.” 1 Peter 3:3-4 

There’s a tenderness to these verses. It’s a sweet note that reveals how we as women can please our Heavenly Father—through our character.

Inside this little definition of godly womanhood there are no commandments for action or requirements for what activities to do, but rather a proper attitude of service.

In context, Peter is directing this Word to wives, but all of us can glean wisdom from such a delightful description. God loves women with inner beauty. It’s about the heart hidden inside – the spirit that is imperishable.

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God’s picture of womanhood – while lovely – is not always easy for me. My natural tendencies go against what He desires, like when I doubt my husband or panic at the slightest change in plans. Thank the Lord that His mercy renews each morning.

If we keep pursuing to walk with the Spirit, confessing our sin and cherishing the grace of His throne, He is faithful to shape us into Christlike women.

“He who calls you is faithful; he will surely do it.” 1 Thessalonians 5:24

Come take a closer look at what this inner beauty is. Pray over what God seeks for us as we seek to be His daughters in Christ. As you’ll see, all the qualities are interconnected through faith.

1. Gentleness

The Greek word for “gentle” in this passage means mildness of disposition, or meekness. This is not to be confused with passivity, but to be understood as a peacefulness of spirit that comes from a trust in God’s goodness.

A woman of gentleness recognizes that every element of life is being used by the Spirit to grow her in Christ, and so refuses to be hardened by hardship. She responds to others in deference and love, knowing the Father has shown her the same kindness.

2. Quietness

Nearly synonymous with gentleness, this emphasizes inner tranquility. When we are serene in God’s salvation, we exhibit reverent behavior. Rather than stirring up strife or calling for attention, the quiet woman is secure in God’s love. She serves Him and her home without resistance. Having confidence in the Lord, she reacts to life thoughtfully and with grace.

Moving past verse 4, more qualities appear in 5 and 6.

“For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.” 1 Peter 3:5-6

3. Hope

We can have a gentle and quiet heart because we hope in Jesus, knowing He will soon return. Even if others fail, the godly woman knows her God does not. She entrusts herself to Him. The hope of heaven is so real to her, giving her a warmth and strength that inspires her family and neighbors.

Following the footsteps of the biblical matriarchs, we honor the Lord when we respect biblical authorities in our lives – whether it be our parents, husband, or spiritual mentors. Every counsel, every step, is taking a step closer to what He has promised.

4. Faithfulness

This is perhaps the most difficult – we are instructed to “do good.” It seems so simple, and yet such a calling involves the daily grind of self-denial and selflessness for our homes and ministries.

Faithfulness must define our character—not daydreams, secret sins, or selfish ambition. These are the easy temptations in our world of instant gratification and feminism. Instead, let us put on good works – ones that may not have fireworks but bring joy to our Savior. From diaper-changing to praying for our husband to crying with a friend, we can be holy women who bring God’s Word to life.

5. Fearlessness

Finally, we can be courageous in the Lord, in all things. The world equates being fearless with being a risk-taker, but the Bible provides a definition of greater substance and sweetness.

Because Christ has freed us from sin and shame, we can walk confidently before God. As His redeemed daughters, we trust Him and like the Proverbs 31 woman are without fear of the future, because He is steadfast. There’s no fear of failure or misfortune, because we know He can carry us through our daily trials. He, and He alone, is enough.

All of these behaviors bless our husbands and our homes, our churches and friends, but most of all our Lord. May we be precious in His sight as we live in His grace!

  1. Love how you described that the Lord wants our external to be based off of our internal. All 5 characteristics are so important for us to have a woman. These characteristics will build us up as a wife and mother more than we can imagine. Great post as usual Dani!!

    1. Yes! We often hear “what’s on the inside is what counts,” but it’s neat to see what exactly God desires of us as wives and mothers. Thank you for visiting, Carmen!

  2. I love this! This is so challenging to me – it’s great to see gentleness and fearlessness put together. It’s wonderful hearing what God desires for us and his commitment to accomplish it 🙂

    1. It is challenging for sure! God knows we women need encouragement to trust Him and let that change our hearts. And that is also really neat to think about how with the Lord gentleness and fearlessness work together!

  3. I love this post, Dani. Our culture puts so much emphasis on the outer appearance, especially of women. It’s so refreshing and scriptural to read your words of focus on our inner qualities as women. And the only way to cultivate inner beauty is through the Word as you state. Blessings!

      1. Praise the Lord, Belema. That is my hope and prayer – to uplift and free women from burdens by sharing truth from God’s Word. Praying you hold onto God’s peace and grow as you look to be a godly woman. God bless!

    1. I agree, Karen. Our society focuses on outer beauty and productivity, but God has such a deeper design for us. Thank you for stopping by! 🙂

  4. This post is so warmly written. I can feel the closeness of the Lord in your life Dani! And I’m sure these 5 desires you are striving to live by. Thanks for the reminders sister!

    1. Aw, thank you Sue! I do pray to have these 5 qualities, even though I often fail. Thankfully God restores us, and helps us to encourage others in the process. Blessings, sister!

  5. Wow, exceptional! What a beautiful post, it is challenging, but also comforting. We do not have to live up to what culture expects from us because God has other plans for women and there is pure joy in His desires! If only we can die to self, thank you for this reminder!

    1. Thank you for always giving encouraging words, LeNae! You are such a sweet sister in Christ. I love how you said there’s “pure joy” in His desires. What a beautiful truth! Praying we can die to self each day and let Christ fill us with purpose.

  6. Thank you for sharing this Dani. As someone who has always been outspoken and loud at times, I prayerfully and consistently ask for God to do a work in me so that I can have a gentle and quiet spirit. That even though I can still speak about what’s on my heart, it’s the way that I present myself and the matter to my husband and other people that show that I am walking in fear of the Lord. Amen!

    1. I have the tendency to wear my heart on my sleeve, too! Like you said, we can speak but most do so with self-control, purpose, and ultimately fear of the Lord. Praying right along with you sister!

    1. Totally! We have to keep going back to His Word when the world tries to tell us the opposite. Thanks for reading Tiffany! 🙂

  7. What a great post and beautiful reminders. The idea of women being gentle and quiet has become so misunderstood in our culture! And it takes so much strength and courage to have hope and faith and fearlessness without attempting to control! Thank you for the post!

    1. It keeps me in praise to think God created us to be both gentle and strong, quiet and courageous – what a wonderful God we serve. Thank you for reading Melissa!

  8. I came across this and it blessed me while I’m going thru breast cancer. My marriage of course is being challenged… the wonderful way God sees us women is a great reminder to me. Thank You for this it’s much needed in my life.

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