Something caught my attention lately, as I was reading Nancy Demoss Wolgemuth’s book Adorned about Titus 2.
She makes the point that God is a homemaker.
It blew my mind a little bit. Why hadn’t I ever realized this before?!
Throughout Scripture it is said that the Lord makes homes and is our home. In seeing this, my “theology” of homemaking changed dramatically.
Jesus promised: “In my Father’s house are many rooms. If it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for you?” John 14:2
“Father of the fatherless and protector of widows
is God in his holy habitation.
6 God settles the solitary in a home;
he leads out the prisoners to prosperity,
but the rebellious dwell in a parched land.” Psalm 68:5-6
“He gives the barren woman a home, making her the joyous mother of children. Praise the Lord!” Psalm 113:9
“Lord, you have been our dwelling place in all generations.” Psalm 90:1
God calls us to homemaking because it’s no small matter – it’s part of who He is. It is about building places where His Kingdom can grow and flourish.
Homemaking for Dummies
Growing up, being a “housewife” or “homemaker” was a joke, a 1950’s ideal that didn’t make sense in our advancing culture.
In my endless interests and love for academia I had many dreams – varying from becoming a surgeon to a travel journalist – and raising a family would be squeezed in their somewhere, eventually.
I was book-smart, and prided myself in it, content with studying and working.
Then I became a Christian, and a few years later was married… and reality it. My grade in domestic tasks was close to flunking.
I remember timidly asking my husband how to clean the bathroom, or the way he washed dishes. Dinners were a laughable attempt at Pinterest recipes. I went from acing exams at a top-tier university to wondering how to cook a piece of chicken and do a load of delicates.
Talk about humbling.
By that point I knew managing the home was my responsibility as a wife, because the Bible said so (Titus 2:5). I didn’t question it, but I was clueless and discouraged.
If you’re feeling this way, there’s hope!
Gradually, with advice from other ladies and Google, my understanding of cleaning and nurturing our abode grew.
I started embracing the amazing reason why God wants women to keep the home: to give a taste of heaven.
That phrase also came from the Adorned book, and it truly captures the calling we have.
A Temporary Place with Eternal Impact
For the most part, we as women naturally love making things beautiful. Even if we can’t do it ourselves, we can create a vision for it or appreciate it when it’s there.
Because God is beautiful, and is the Author of beauty. We were made to worship Him.
If our heart is renewed in Christ, we can direct our creative and organizational skills to reflect His beauty to our families and the world.
This happens in basic, but critical ways – like creating a healthy, welcoming home.
And while we can enjoy decorating our homes for the seasons, or whipping up a gourmet meal, this call God gives us doesn’t need to be overcomplicated.
Homemaking isn’t being the next DIY star or splurging to make an HGTV status design, but creating an environment that allows for beauty to arise in hearts.
An environment of peace, of order, of kindness, of meaning, of gathering.
It is a place where life can be joyfully shared, a place of refuge, a place of fellowship.
We can bring to life the example of the early church.
“And day by day, attending the temple together and breaking bread in their homes, they received their food with glad and generous hearts…” Acts 2:46
As Nancy Wolgemuth puts it: “[A] home is not an idol or an end to itself. It is a tool, a means of putting the gospel and the grace of God on display.”
Through the wisdom of His Word and others, we can take steps to caring for our homes and those within it, not matter what our job status is.
Homemaking is not the number one priority, but it is a priority that helps us meet all those above it.
It helps us to fulfill the call to help our husband, to disciple our children, and to witness to the world. To do it, we must be diligent, willing to learn, and willing to serve.
God’s Special Ministry For Us
“The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down.” Proverbs 14:1
Who wants to destroy their home? Not me, and I’m guessing not you!
Humor aside, this is striking, because it shows our character is connected to our homemaking.What we do within the walls of our home shows what's within the walls of our heart. Click To Tweet
At home we have privacy and we have independence. This can tempt us into letting it fall into neglect. We can exert our energies elsewhere, and forget our home impacts those closest to us. But God still sees, and deserves our devotion to Him there.
The opposite can happen too. In our ambitious attempts to meal plan or create cleaning schedules, let’s not become so caught up in the results that we forget to love in the process.
We can take joy and find balance in our housekeeping tasks if we remember that they are expressions of Christlike service, opportunities to exercise our talents, and a way to bring joy to others.
We can rest in Christ even if not every room is squeaky clean, because we have an understanding that outward perfection is not what matters, but inward worship.
There’s a reason God placed the Proverbs 31 woman in the Bible – not to burden us with a impossible to-do list but to inspire us to fill our days with purposeful good works.
“She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.” Proverbs 31:27
The Lord has entrusted you and me with the care of eternal souls, whether it be a husband, kids, or friends, and we can do our part by fostering a place where His glory shines for them.God calls us to homemaking so we can build places where His Kingdom can grow and flourish. Click To Tweet